In My Opinion 1

Lady “T”

(Shetana “T” Wilson)

 MY PERSONAL OPINION

Welcome to my personal opinion about “cheating in a relationship”.

Cheating in a relationship, yes, we know it’s wrong, but my personal opinion is that most people cheat for a reason. No one wants to be cheated on but if you closely examine the situation or relationship, you’ll realize that there has been a major change. Somewhere in the relationship someone dropped the ball. Someone was communicating and someone wasn’t listening. Egos became front and center and the partnership took a back seat.

 For the most, people don’t wake up in the morning and decide this will be the day that I will cheat. Chances are this void that needed to be filled has been feeling empty for quite a while. The next time your significant other asks you to do a chore or favor, just do it in a timely manner. You don’t want someone else to be flexing their muscles for your girl.  

If you took her out on dates before don’t drop the ball now. If your money situation has changed just be creative, it’s the thought that counts. Don’t let someone else take your girl out on a date because your ego is in the way.  Ladies remember when you used to greet him at the door with hugs and kisses and a cold beer.

Now, when he comes in the door, you greet him with complaints, no hug, no kiss, no warmth, just NAG NAG NAG. Trust me, there is another lady out there waiting to greet your man at the front door in some lingerie, with comfy slippers and a cold beer for him. Think long and hard about the changes in the relationship.

 Ladies, if you had a job and was paying your own bill, paying to get your own toes and nails done, don’t slip up now, don’t get comfortable, stay with the upkeep. Fellas, remember in the beginning when you were the person your girl came to with all the office gossip, now you don’t want to hear about it, I’m sorry, you started it, don’t switch up now.

The last thing you want is for her to be talking office gossip over the phone to another dude. People I’ll say this much. If someone really wants to be in a relationship and they want to make it work, they will communicate one way or another. Question is, are you listening or are you too caught up in yourself.

I will say some people can never be satisfied, it’s not in them to settle or have a one-person relationship, chances are, they have people on standby that you know nothing about. Please don’t think that you are more important or special then the person before you, trust me, you’re not. You can’t change people. They can only change themselves. Maybe one day they may change for you, but you can’t change them. Most people that cheat aren’t thinking about your feelings, they are concerned about filling that void. They might feel bad later but not at the time of the action.

I’m not saying that cheating is right. I want you to think about the bigger picture so you can be prepared or be aware of the signs for the next relationship. Take your hurt and make it a learning lesson. No need for pay back. Just move forward and start building with the next person that will be all about you. You may say that you have invested time into this person, no problem, if you did it before, you can do it again.

Life is too short to be miserable in a loveless relationship. You could be blocking your own blessing, but you’ll never know until you are willing to step into your greatness. Don’t let one bad relationship dim your brightness. No one deserves to be cheated on. If you see some changes, address it, fix it, talk about it, be honest. After you have taken those steps if it still doesn’t work, at least you know you tried.

Thank you for your time and again this is Lady” T” and this is MY PERSONAL OPINION.